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Our biological need drives us to marry. We should know that our genes lead us to marry. This phenomenon is for the continuation of the human race. There is an instruction in our genes to find the best candidate, live with it, and have children.

In addition, psychosocial needs can only be met through marriage. Other than that, it is not possible to fully meet these needs. However, there are exceptions to the natural rule of marriage. Marriage is a cultural phenomenon If a person can diversify his interests and pleasures and control his hormones by 30-40%, he can make himself happy without getting married.

The more people adopt the values ​​of modernity, the weaker their ties to the institution of marriage. Modernism has given a message to married couples such as "live free, be independent, do what you want, the child will prevent you".

For example, a woman feels very bad when she loses her appearance as a result of exalting her physical features. Marriage wears out women physically. In this case, she avoids the role of mother in order not to lose her feminine features and wear out, considering the body wear that will occur as a result of giving birth to a child. For example, some women do not breastfeed their children after giving birth so that their breasts do not deteriorate. Not wanting to have children is a result of the same thought, an extension of the models offered by modernity.

Even families want their daughters to have a job so that they can get divorced if they can't get along with their husbands. This is one of the reasons why so much emphasis is placed on their education. There is an incentive to be selfish behind such a thought. The benefit of this situation, which is considered as a defensive weapon, to the institution of marriage is discussed. These intentions and purposes weaken the marriage bond.

It is said to young people, 'After marriage, neither oppress yourself nor oppress the other party; Try to strengthen the ties of marriage!' idea should be instilled. In our culture, the family of the married person is called 'kaim valide and kaim pader'. This term means 'replacing mother or father'. Mother-in-law and father-in-law should see the person whose son they marry as their daughter. No matter how wrong the bride is, the grown-ups should feel the feelings she feels in her own daughter and should not let go of her sense of right. Otherwise, the idea that 'if he can't get along, he will leave' becomes a self-fulfilling presupposition on the other side. Now the place of these people; The family elders who cannot replace the daughter-in-law and the son-in-law take the place of the son-in-law. As these bonds weaken, marriages also weaken.

One of the secret laws of psychology is the rule that 'man acts according to what he believes'.

For example, when a person regards someone as bad, he or she unconsciously starts to treat him badly, and the other person gives negative reactions without realizing it. Although people are not bad, relations deteriorate, the addressee suddenly becomes the enemy of the person. Here is the discontent of the parents' inability to substitute the bride or groom for their own children.

At this point, the increase in divorces is only a result. These phenomena are the result of the weakening of many concepts, the decrease in social ties and human virtues, moral collapse and people's giving too much importance to shape. Although people dress very well, their hearts are weakened. As priorities change, the number of divorces, fears of marriage and polygamy increases. Unfortunately, while our people took the good values ​​of the West, they also took their diseases.

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